NEVER GIVE UP HOPE
When you lose someone to suicide, you may find that it is the kind of death, and grief, that most people are very uncomfortable talking about. This group facilitated by McHenry County Crisis Services will help you put aside that discomfort to get the help you need. The group is open to spouses, brothers or sisters, parents, adult children, or friends of suicide victims.
WHEN DOES THE GROUP MEET?
The group meets on the third Thursday of each month, 7-9 p.m. Survivors at any stage of their grieving process are welcome.
WHERE DO THE MEETINGS TAKE PLACE?
Meetings are held at the Northern Illinois Medical Center classrooms (Rt 31 & Bull Valley in McHenry).
WHAT IS THE FEE FOR THE SUPPORT GROUP?
There are no fees to attend the group. Free-will donations are accepted.
WHAT CAN I EXPECT WHEN I ATTEND A MEETING?
- Listening: Share feelings and explore painful questions in a supportive environment. Members also share coping techniques.
- Reassurance: Know you are not suffering alone, and that your reactions, thoughts and feelings are not unusual.
- Opportunity: Reaching out, even in the midst of your own pain, to help others in a similar situation can be a healing experience in itself.
- Information: Learn the facts about suicide, grief and depression.
ARE MY FEELINGS NORMAL?
To be at peace with the deceased, survivors must grieve.
Aside from the typical aspects of grief, as a suicide survivor, you may be experiencing:
- Stigma: Other people—sometimes even your relatives and friends—may avoid you or even blame you for the death. You might feel ashamed that such a thing happened in your family.
- Guilt: Because suicide has been called “the preventable death,” you may think you could have kept it from happening.
- Rejection: You may feel abandoned, reasoning that, because your loved one chose death, he or she chose not to live with you.
- Anger: Your pain can take the form of anger toward the deceased, toward professionals for not preventing it, toward yourself, or even toward God.
- Questioning: Survivors can be overwhelmed wondering why the person took his or her life. You may wonder what you could have done to prevent it.
It is hard for anyone to really understand a loss from suicide, but talking with others who have been through the same experience can help you begin adjusting to the death.